Thursday, October 23, 2008

Day Three

Chemo, day three; Brian is sleeping a great deal today but otherwise not yet feeling the effects of the chemotherapy drugs. Everyone is different as the medical staff remind us. How and when he will react will be individual.
Its mid- afternoon now and I'm sitting in his darkened room. He didn't really sleep during the night, but now the crazy combination of sleeping meds, benedryl, (for blood product reactions), and the chemo premeds are all conspiring. Good, though,to sleep. He has so little mobility right now, with his catheter, and the accompanying big saline bags which are continuously running through his bladder, and two PICC lines, one in each arm--not to mention the additional IV site in his hand because they are always running out of access for something--antibiotics, TPN..... sleeping is a relief, for both of us. He will be disappointed that he missed lunch, though. He's on a full-fluid diet now, so there is soup getting cold and vanilla ice cream getting warm on the tray beside his bed. The return to eating simply these sorts of things has been a real pleasure in the midst of so much discomfort.
Another small pleasure has been the IPod that Louise sent. And, at last, getting the laptop up and running in his room here--a feat I accomplished just today!!-will be a huge lift. Its going to feel like XMas when he wakes up this afternoon.
My week has been one of catching my breath, and catching up on meals and sleep while things are relatively stable. I've also been plowing through things governmental and technological. Seems having acute leukemia isn't at first glance convincing to EI. The powers that be decided originally that 7 weeks was enough, and it took a call to our MP (and a single hour after two months of phone calls) to straighten things out. Thank you, Gary Lunn.
Thanks also to the Salt Spring group who arranged for me to have a hotel room during these chemo days. Its a great gift.
As well,the quilt made by many hands on SSI is a constant on Brian's bed now, and much appreciated.
I bought some books to read to Brian courtesy of Dwight; today we're reading essays by David Sedaris. Smile inducing.
At last, now, Brian will be able to read your postings, and maybe begin on the emails. Sorry so many people have gone unanswered. We so appreciate you all.
love,
Joanne

58 comments:

Anonymous said...

This morning was the best morning in many - Brian phoned!

Everyone should make better use of the politicians who represent them - give them some practice to get better!

Telus need to give their heads a shake and make it easier for clients to get laptops connected! Thanks to Joanne for persevering in that department.

A miracle has happened just to have Brian taking food by mouth again, and to be sitting in a chair and moving around a bit.........and making a phone call....very special times..

Love you so much

Mom/Louise

rcj said...
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rcj said...

Hey Brian!

Greetings from the Sadouski/James confederacy.

I'll avoid talk of all things medical (too much of that!) and instead offer a frivolous suggestion.

Here's my best (DON'T TELL MANYA!) time-waster of an internet site:

www.ted.com

I love the 20 minute lectures by luminaries -- crazy and sane. Moments of grace (Jill Bolte Taylor), words of grandeur and caution(Martin Rhys, Astronomer Royal) and some of the wonders of the natural world (Robert Ballard). That will get you going.

Perhaps you might blog about what you find!

If you have to be confined to quarters, then TED is good company.

Oh, and if that is just too high-brow, then www.bemboszoo.com just for fun.

Maybe others will chip in their favourite time-wasters as well!

Rob

Anonymous said...

So happy and relieved! Keep warm under that quilt of love, rest and let yourself heal. Mercy Joanne! You are tiny but tough I think. Aunt Bea

Anonymous said...

Dearest Brian and Joanne,
Larry and I picked Danny up from the airport on Sunday and she was practically luminous with the delight of her short, completely unexpected visit with you, Brian. We speak of you often in the community, and hold you all in our hearts. Blessings across the miles and right in through those hospital windows.
Love from Heidi, Larry, Jasmin, Kris and Cedar.

Anonymous said...

The relief that you are finally making some progress in the healing department has left me teary-eyed. I would love to come and see you Brian and meet Joanne. Let me know how things are going - you have my email. I'm no a pro at finding my way around Vancouver but I'm sure I'll do alright finding you if I can come and see you. I have a great boyfriend who grew up in Vancouver and knows it like the back of his hand - I'm sure he'll help me.
Your are a trooper and it sounds like Joanne is quite the gal. Looking forwards to a visit in the near future.
Love
Barb

Anonymous said...

Hi Joanne

I have just recently connected with this blog and your families heart felt journey.I was guided to visit the windflower the other day not really knowing why? where upon I met up with my dear friend Maggie. After a visit with Laura I was directed to your blog. The out pouring of love and compassion has touched me deeply and I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you, sending prayers and healing light.Even though I don't know you well, I have always admired your light and strength
and it is surely evident here.I would like to include Brian in my daily Medicine Buddha practice for his continued healing and hope this is okay with him.I am also happy to create a C.D that he could listen to......maybe a relaxation, guided visualization tool that reinforces his own inner healing power. It would be a joy to help in anyway I can. My son Ben is also in Cafe training with Coleman and sends his support.

BLESSINGS OF LOVE AND LIGHT

Jane Barter, SSI

Anonymous said...

Hello again from SF Brian and Joannne.
It's a beautiful sunny day here and I'll be sure to try and get some of that sent up to you two. Wish I could spirit you away and we could go for a stroll on the beach. I'll bring you along in my mind and heart anyway. I am still amazed that Keziah and I sent a comment to the blog at exactly the same time the other morning. 7:41 AM. If ever there was a collective thought working in tandem then this was it! Wow!
I sit and wonder how you are doing so many times during the day and Barbara and I keep each other up to date on the thoughts we are having about you both. Played a concert last night with Joshua Bell. I sent the performance to Brian as it occurred on stage as it included some very, very special moments that he would benefit from. Hope he can feel it. Music heals both mind and body. Jake is home sick today. Wish I could also get Louis down here. We ALL miss him and his sweetness. Better be careful. When Barbara visits in November she just may attempt to smuggle him back in her suitcase.
The Green & Greens await you, Brian. They aren't going anywhere and will be here when you are ready. The porch light is on at Chez Weir/Chaffe and your room is ready whenever you like. Is it a date?
Love to you and the kids.

Rob

Rob Weir said...

Hi again.
A quick P.S.
I concur with Rob J. about Ted but I think you already are clued into that site. Can't think of too many better ways to waste some time.
Love to you guys.
RW

Anonymous said...

Hi Brian and Joanne...
Glad to hear the chemo is going good and that you are able to have some real food! Before you know it you will be having pizza and a beer! Keep up the great work both of you! Lots of Love...Marla and Al

Anonymous said...

Simple pleasures are the very best...
Music(ipod) food(even if it is oatmeal) and love (what lovely messages and acts of love are being sent,expressed and made(the quilt- so great!)).................how wonderful to know you are so supported.
So good to hear..........
love you
Terri

Anonymous said...

JOANNE,

YOU ARE AN ABSOLUTE PILLAR OF STRENGTH.... I AM BLESSED TO HAVE SUCH AN INSPIRATIONAL AUNT WHO UNSELFISHLY DEDICATES ALL OF HER TIME TO HER LOVING HUSBAND. BEST WISHES TO YOU BOTH.

KRISTINA

Anonymous said...

JOANNE,

YOU ARE AN ABSOLUTE PILLAR OF STRENGTH.... I AM BLESSED TO HAVE SUCH AN INSPIRATIONAL AUNT WHO UNSELFISHLY DEDICATES ALL OF HER TIME TO HER LOVING HUSBAND. BEST WISHES TO YOU BOTH.

KRISTINA

Rob Weir said...

Good morning to Brian and Joanne.
Hope you had a good day yesterday, things continue in an upward direction and that you are both getting rest. I think about you every morning when I wake up and try to send along strong and willful wishes.
We'd love to hear your voices but understand how that could be difficult. It is easy, though, to have imaginary conversations so I content myself with that.
May you have a good day and we are with you.
XOXO
Rob

Anonymous said...

Brian

Great to hear that you are getting stronger....keep it up.
Thinking of you and your family.
Your cousin Deanna

Anonymous said...

Such a sunny beautiful day here today and I am reading your blogs. I think I will go to the waterfront and have a nice long walk - clear my mind - and send you all the good thoughts and wishes I can think of.

Love you very much,
Aunt NOrma

Anonymous said...

It's Sunday Oct. 26th at 11 pm right now. I have just been directed to your blog, Brian and Joanne. It feels great to finally know how to connect with you and hear what's going on. You are both going through so much, the intensity in the language and emotion is overwhelming. So many of your old buddies from the Cancer Lodge are rooting for you, hope you can feel the love and energy. Mitch and I have been wondering about you daily, we'll be sending you powerfully strong good healing wishes. Mitch is still in Vancouver, but I'm at home during the week now. Much love, strength and courage to you both, you are both doing a wonderful job.

Much love, Jennifer

Anonymous said...

Joanne just called and said Brian has had a hard day.He has pneumonia and a double kidney infection. Joanne is sleeping at the hospital and not really leaving his side. They really are going through it. Brian called briefly (60 seconds?) last night to the house and gave us his love.
Today I brought out the wooden toys he had made for his kids. Sef spent the evening setting up the precious carved animals around the wooden house.He has the wooden angel guarding the entrance. He hums continually while he plays and is totally concentrated. Does that remind you of anyone? All the kids are so unique,kind,serious, funny, soulful. Joanne and Brian are wonderful parents. Love Lynn on SSI

Anonymous said...

"Let the beauty we love, be what we do." Time to really get the cosmic forces of healing passing through Brian.

Anonymous said...

Such sad news re: kidneys and pneumonia. Such a rough time. Thinking of you both.

Much love, Jennifer

Anonymous said...

Hey Brian and Joanne.

Mike and Marsha directed me to your blog. I read the whole thing today including all the comments and wept like a wee bairn. Then I had to go hold my kids (Sam 5, Molly 3) for as long as they would allow it.

What a lot of courage and love being sent through the ether as you both go on this tremendous journey.

Brian, I remember the day I met you, my first day at Lake O'Hara. You seemed to be a reflection of it's strength and beauty not to mention the magic of your smile. Jo, when I met you later, at O'Hara your love for Brian was like a shining sun, deep and true, inspiring us all. And so it continues ...

I remember helping a 10 year old Aviva set up a treasure hunt for her special friend, Brian. Do you remember searching for clues in her sweet childish handwriting and then arriving at the final destination - a hot bubble bath in the girl's staff cabin, with christmas lights for atmosphere and a cold beer for refreshment.

The treasure that I so dearly wish for you now is healing. How amazing that you have a donor match. What a miraculous thing that these possibilities exist in our world. You have so many beautiful messages of love and hope to guide you, and both of you are such strong and loving people that I know in my heart of hearts that this ordeal will someday soon be a thing of memory. When it is, I hope that you can both enjoy a christmas lit bubble bath and a cold beer.

You are both in my thoughts and all of your wonderful children too. I will be sending you all my love and positive energy every day.

Much love, Rose

Wendy said...

Hi Bri, I just want to say how much I love you. I think of you constantly. I wish that there was more that I could do. I'd gladly take on some of your pain and discomfort to give you a reprieve from this ominous matter that has taken over your being. You have amazing inner strength and with Joanne there by your side the strength is twofold. Together you will come through this.
I wish we could go back to being kids where things seemed so much simpler and way less complex. Where and when a bandaid could heal and cure anything and a big bowl of ice cream made everything right. We're not kids anymore...but bandaids and ice cream can still make us smile and feel better.
I love you Brian.
:) Love Wendy

Anonymous said...

Blessings and deep deep love, Brian and Joanne and family. Our prayers are with you!
xo

Ruth

Rob Weir said...

Dearest Brian and Joanne:

We think of you and think of you and never stop thinking of you throughout the day and evening. Then we sleep and sometimes our dreams are of you and when when we wake up we start thinking of you again. We love you. Barbara and Rob

Anonymous said...

p.s. that previous note was actually Barbara - didn't realize that Rob's I.D. was clicked. love to you

Anonymous said...

Hey Brian...Just want say how much I love you... we are thinking of you and your family alot... especially the last few days... Stay strong and think strong lil bradduh... you will pull through this tuff spot man!! We all know you will! Lots of Love to You, Joanne and the kids!!! Al and Marla

Anonymous said...

Joanne and Brian

I feel so out of touch now that I'm retired, I just discovered that you are on a tremendous journey of healing and immediately started sending you angels. Today I bumped into Lynn and she told me how to get in touch with you. I read through this whole blog and am in awe of you both, no wonder you have such delightfully wonderful children. I am holding your whole family in my heart and soul and send you love and strength and healing.

Namaste........ Rineke

Anonymous said...

So, you probably already know these guys, but I find if you go to youtube.com and search for: Flight of the Conchords - Jenny
there is a good 7 minutes and 10 seconds of pure distraction to be had.
We love you!
Strength, courage and some good rest to you...

Stacey Eli Paddy

Rob Weir said...

Hi.
The start of another day in which we hope you find renewed strength and can gain the upper hand on this set back. We think about you and send strength to you to continue the fight. You know you are both much loved and we miss you terribly. Our thoughts are always with you.
Please feel our love wrapped around you and send all of our combined energies to helping you heal from within.
We're with you!
XOXO
R&B

Anonymous said...

Hi Brian and Joanne - reading your blogs again can't seem to stay away. You are in my mind constantly and I wish I could do more. I will say a prayer for you again and again until this journey is over for you. I look at the hand you carved for me and try to send all my love and healing through it to you. Love you very much aunt NOrma

Anonymous said...

Dear Brian and Joanne; Praying for you every moment, sending healing light across the miles. The crisp golden leaves rustle as I walk thru them to work, smell their freshness,kick them out of my path..ummmm,cold enough to stick your nose together in the mornings. Watched the fog roll over the river this morning, thought it might storm but no...just got colder. Think of you often, sending warm healing light across the miles, praying for you both. Wish I could do more, know I love you so very much, luv, Aunt Bea

Anonymous said...

......and the day ends with a phone call from Joanne, to say that Brian is clinically no worse than yesterday - and that the Doctors are happy with that.
That sounds like good news to me!
You're just like the little engine who could, Bri.........
Love you and Joanne
Mom

Anonymous said...

Night Dad, it's Hannah-- just letting you know it was so good to see you tonight-- i just cherish every time I get, even if it's just being quiet. i love you so very much, and look forward to the next time i can say hello.
peace to you,
h.

Anonymous said...

Wow Brian and Joanne...you have so much love and support coming at you from everywhere it's absolutely wonderful. I can't count how many times a day I wonder how you're doing and take a moment to send you my love and good wishes. Each night I look at a picture of you Brian - it is on my bedroom wall - and say a few words of prayer and good wishes for you and your amazing family.
I admire the strength of each one of you and want to say also that Lynn is an angel. You're very lucky.
Love
Barb

Rob Weir said...

Hope your day was a better one Brian.
Just returned from a concert that included a very long symphony of Anton Bruckner. I kept wondering what you would have thought of it. He was a rather strange fellow but very, very earnest! We'll listen to it together some time and then you can let me know what you think.
Love to you.
Rob

Wendy said...

Just having my morning coffee and as always thinking of you both and the kids. Sending much love, strength and smiles your way. Love you all very much.
:)Love Wendy

Anonymous said...

Hi Brian...
Just a note to say "hello" and to send strength and positive thoughts your way! I've got the other Millwrights at work pullin' for ya and they ask about you pretty much every day! Mallory also sends her best to you and Joanne and the kids, Clayton too...well gotta get movin" here...I think our luck with the nice fall weather is going to run out soon...and as usual I have lots to do that always gets put off when it's nice out! Loads of love to You, Joanne and kids!
Al and Marla

Anonymous said...

Just having my morning coffee and getting my day organized. I always check your blog in the morning and try to send lots of good things your way. It is raining but I am going out for lunch with my girlfriend. Deb sent me pictures of Graeme and his Halloween constume, true Godfrey, just like his Dad. They are so busy I don't get to see them much but I am going out for dinner with them tomorrow night, next week they are off to Vegas. Lots of Love from me and Mudgie (my cat_ I just finished playing with her, she loves to play with green beans, chases them, fetches them back to me to throw again. Funny little girl. However, she is now asleep so I am having a couple of peaceful moments.

Love Aunt Norma

Anonymous said...

Hey Brain and Jo. Oh yah, the bus ride home was fun - no snow in the passes, so I guess that's good. I miss your scarves and smell Jo. And I can't help but smile every time I think of Liam's brilliant grin. I hope today you see some pain relief Brain. Today's the day for that - no tricks, just treats! Charlie, take care of yer beautiful wee family Big fat love. xx Sue

Anonymous said...

Hi Bri, it's Mom.........I wish I could take your pain away.........
Joanne says you've had a really rough day....
Luv you so much.....

Rob Weir said...

Hi Brian and Joanne.
Had a fun Halloween with Jake yesterday. He was a 60's greaser. He looked so cute although I would never tell HIM that. It sure would have been nice for him to have Louis to hang out with and go trick or treating. I know he would have enjoyed that. Anyway, the rain stayed away for them to enjoy the evening so that was good.
We think about you so much and we are really concentrating on thoughts of you getting through this particularly rough patch that you are having. Really miss you both and your family and all of your lovely faces. We're with you all the way and all the time.
Much love to both.

Rob

Anonymous said...

Foggy this a.m. warm tho. Reading the Ballads of a Bohemian, Robert Service, thoughts of you and your family shone thru. Wrapped your hand in mine, it sits on the mantel and has acquired a warm, bronzelike patena, lovely.Stay strong my friend,sending warm healing thoughts, as always..

Anonymous said...

Hey Brian,Joanne,and kids.
Gravity is a b.... and this is heavy news. Charly called me in the middle of the night a few weeks back, and I sent you guys an e-mail. Since you'r extremely occopied I'm leaving you this blog to send you my best and a little quote you probably like " Luck will often save a man if his courage holds". I'll stay in touch.
Love Walti

Anonymous said...

Hi, Joanne and Brian. Hope today has been a fairly good one.

Just listening to CBC radio on a Saturday night,
SSI's own Randy Bachman, hearing songs that I move me....thought I'd share some snippets:

"Some times we know, sometimes we don't
Sometimes we give, sometimes we won't
Sometimes we're strong,sometimes we're wrong
Sometimes we cry."
-Van Morrison

"thank you frailty
thank you consequence
thank you thank you silence

the moment I let go was the moment
I got more than I could handle
the moment I jumped off
was the moment I touched down

how bout no longer being masochistic
how bout remembering your divinity
how bout unabashedly bawling your eyes out
how bout not equating death with stopping

thank you india
thank you providence
thank you disillusionment
thank you nothingness
thank you clarity
thank you thank you silence"

Alanis Morissette


This song was followed shortly thereafter by "Thank you for being a friend" a la Golden Girls sound track! How's that for variety...I laughed, I cried, I laughed again.

Thinking of you.
Clare SSI

Anonymous said...

I asked Joanne tonight if Brian was up to reading or listening to the blog entries. She said that when he is not in too much pain it touches him deeply to know that his friends out there love him and care so much.
Brian has had a perfectly crappy time of it this week! Sometimes it makes me and Louis so mad!
We are all; Coleman,Mike,Seffy,Louie and Lynn just trying to not miss you 3 ALL the time. You and Hannah, and Joanne over there.Us over here.We all can be strong when we want and mad when we want and sad when we want. Sometimes we want to put it on the alter or in a prayer or in a soccer game or in a cheerful attitude or in a sad song and have a good old cry or help each other get done what needs to be done. Tomorrow is Sunday a do nothing day.We will take Cosmos for a walk and skip some stones for you.
Isn't life strange! We will never figure it out. Trying makes me dizzy! Cosmos says never hurry never worry. What a good dog! xoxoxoxoLynn

Anonymous said...

Hey Brian and Joanne,
Thinking of you lots and lots. I gave blood yesterday. Felt good to do a little something. I wish there was more I could do. Know that you are in my thoughts and I'm sending all my healing energy, love and peace your way. It sounds like you have all had such a tough week. I hope and pray that your pain will ease soon. There is so much love getting sent your way, Brian. I truly believe that it is tangible and will make a difference in your healing. Especially since you both have such a capacity to feel love. Stay strong and trust in your body's ability to kick this thing.

Much love, Rose

Rob Weir said...

Today is Sunday.
I know your week was a real ordeal and if we could, even for just a minute, take away some discomfort we would in a heat beat. I'm so sorry you are going through this, Brian, and can offer little more than our love and encouragement and wishes for a change for the better. Barbara will be on Salt Spring next week to visit Keziah and will try to see Lynn and Mike and the boys if possible. We are working hard, through our thoughts, to draw away your pain and to give you relief. We will all tend the flame that burns in you. We know you are doing that more than anyone. Carry on, Brian! Keep glowing!
Love from Rob, Barbara, Keziah and Jake.

Anonymous said...

Sunday morning, more fog but that doesn't keep the love away. Your own personal cheering section is sending volumes of warm healing light thru the ether to you. Wish there was more we could do to ease your journey. Sending comforting thoughts to your boys and that wonderful sister-in-law and her partner, Joanne and of course the little dancer lady. Bless all of you with strength to carry on, luv Aunt Bea

Gary said...

Thanks for being there in such a solid way Joanne. I too am thinking about Brian every day and sending good wishes and hopes in your collective direction.

Much love.

Anonymous said...

LIFE........ IS NOT MEASURED BY THE BREATHS YOU TAKE...... BUT THE MOMENTS IN LIFE THAT TAKE YOUR BREATH AWAY...... SENDING MY LOVE, STRENGTH, THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS.

KRISTINA

Anonymous said...

Brian and Jo
I love you.

You are on my heart and mind everyday. All day.
People don't ask the usual 'how are you?' when they see me anymore they ask how is your brother ,his wife? his family?and so it should be as you are all the constant concern on all of our hearts. Just so you know... there are so many prayers are going out for you everyday .Even people who don't know you are just so moved by your life and story and are drawn to pray. It seems someone new everyday tells me their concern for you and lets me know they are praying.

Thinking of the both of you quite simply warms my heart and blesses me.You are beautiful. I miss you and love you so much.I hold close and treasure the memory ...a beautiful day walking along False Creek with you both and Hannah and Charlie. hmmmmmmmmm. I can hear Hannah humming now......

terri-lou


Isaiah 40:28-31 beautiful promises

Anonymous said...

Joanne and Brian,
Have just finished reading your blog and am so awed by the strength of you both and your family. There is so much love and support for you all. We are thinking of you and sending positive loving thoughts your way.
Love Carmen, Ray and Maggie-Ray

Anonymous said...

Happy Birthday Joanne,
I hope you both have a day with some brightness in it.
We think of you daily, and send our love and healing thoughts your way, as always.
Big, giant birthday hugs to you.
Love,
Laura

Anonymous said...

Good Morning!! Just popping in to say Hi and have a good day. The sun is shining and it is a good time for a nice long walk. Sending all my love and energy to you Brian and Joanne.

Love aunt Norma

Rob Weir said...

Good morning to you two and best birthday wishes to Joanne. Perhaps we can deliver all sorts of lovely things today. Upward health for Brian being at the the very top of the list. Further down a successful outcome to the election here. Cross your fingers for the world.
I'm taking Jake to the polls with me. I think it's important that he sees the process in action.
I'll be thinking of you both today, as always, and hope that your day is one of continuing successes and renewed energy. Our love is boundless for you.

Rob

Anonymous said...

Happy Birthday, Joanne...you are loved and we are thinking of you daily. My your wishes be answered :)

love kaia

Anonymous said...

Hi Guys,
I knew your birthday was around the coner and here it is. Big Hug and Best wishes. Tons of love to you both. A big chocolate cake to share with all. Also Charlie if you see this I have lost your phone #. Maybe you could get mine from Joanne.

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